- Some topics are difficult to discuss with your parents but should be addressed nonetheless
- Knowing what you want from a discussion will help your parents better understand your point of view.
- Having the right attitude is important. During a discussion, become impulsive or bossy
Being a parent is not easy. It’s a full-time job and in addition to looking after the children, our people go to great lengths to make us feel like they’re there for us no matter what. However, some topics unknowingly become taboo in our households, and children often refrain from having discussions that can be awkward. Topics like sex, sexuality, mental health, alcohol, divorce, relationships are often difficult to discuss with parents as you may feel shy to bring them up or may not know the right manner and tone for discussion. If this continues to happen, a child may seek outside guidance, or worse, the anxiety may continue to build.
Here are some simple tips for kids to keep in mind on how to approach discussions about difficult topics in front of our elders.
Assess their mood
It is important to gauge a parent’s mood before entering into a discussion. Working parents may not have the right mindset for a conversation at all times. So look for clues before broaching a sensitive topic with them. If you realize he’s in a serious mood, try to cheer him up and then bring up the subject.
Don’t hide your emotions
It is natural to feel embarrassed or nervous. So don’t try to hide your emotions when you’re about to have a conversation. Feel natural about your mental state and what you’re going through about it. Sometimes you may not be clear when expressing yourself or even when speaking if you find it difficult to accept how you feel.
The right attitude
Having the right attitude is important. Do not be discouraged if your discussion is rejected or if the result does not suit you. Don’t get angry with your parents either. Entering a discussion with an open mind will also help you broach the subject later. Understand the parents’ point of view as well and don’t be bossy, impulsive or overly demanding.
The real problem
Going around the subject will not help you. So, instead, discuss the real deal with your friends and let them know what you desire. Sometimes they may not have the time to meet your needs and things may just go unsaid. Define the real problem or have them define it for you. Honesty is the overriding factor here.
Know what you are looking for
Do you want support or advice from your parents or do you just want them to listen to you. Know this before starting a discussion.
Remember, you are still their child
Whatever the outcome of the conversation you expected with your parents, remember that you are still their child and that they love you no matter what. Don’t hold a grudge or let it affect your relationship with them. Otherwise, the next time you need it for real, asking for help might not be so easy.